Child Development

Girl, Father, Portrait, Eyes, People

It’s often said that there’s the being and then there is the doing, and that both of these aspects are important. Consequently, if somebody can only embrace these aspects, they are going to be out of equilibrium.

Another way to look at this dynamic would be to be to say that there is the masculine and then there’s the feminine. When one is only being, they will be in their female; whereas when they’re doing, they’ll be in their masculine.


The feminine part of them will tell them that their value is based on who they are, yet the masculine portion of them will tell them that it is based on what they do. Consequently, if one has not incorporated the former, they could be out of touch with their inherent worth.

On the other hand, if one hasn’t incorporated the latter, then they won’t feel as though they need to function for anything and that everything should be offered for them. Both these scenarios will lead to problems, problems which will hold them back in one way or another.

A Machine

Therefore, when one is out of touch with their inherent worth, they may wind up trying to compensate for how useless they feel. They will believe that their value is defined by what they achieve, meaning that their entire life could revolve around attempting to achieve things.

How they feel at a deeper level will start to rise up again, making them look for something else to attain.

Stuck On a Treadmill

They won’t have the ability to achieve this gold, but they will compromise their health and wellbeing, for instance, in order to try and get it.

If they could take a step back and to reflect on what is taking place, they may see how futile this is. However, the pain that’s within them is likely to stop them from be able to do this.

Running Away

As stressful as it’s going to be for them to live in this manner, facing what is going on within them will be a lot more painful. They could believe that they only have two options: either they face how they feel and feel unworthy, or they try to change how they feel by being successful.

Consequently, this person isn’t likely to think about being, let alone allow themselves to be. They’ll be a human being, that much is clear, but that will be as far as it will go; it won’t be possible for them to act like one.

Another Option

Alternatively, someone like this could only face how they feel rather than attempt and do anything about it.

So while the individual above will have obtained a masculine approach, this person will have taken a feminine approach.

The Other Side

When it comes to someone who’s out of touch with their masculine component, they can have a strong sense of entitlement. It can be as though their mere existent gives them the right to have everything they want.

They are likely to see themselves as being special and different, so it is to be expected that they would behave in this way. There are a variety of things that could define whether or not this individual’s reality matches up with what they believe.

For Example

If somebody was to come from a well-to-do background, their family might give them what they need. There is then likely to be no need for them to work for anything, as it’ll be dropped right into their lap – that is unless their family’s financial position changes.

Because of how they look, It’s not likely to be a challenge for them to fulfil this requirement – that is until they get older

Way Back

What generally plays the largest part in an adult’s masculine and feminine development is what took place during their early years. For arguments sake, the feminine aspect is usually developed by having a mother who loves unconsciously, and the masculine part is usually developed by having a father who loves conditionally.

Each parent then plays an essential role, a role which will enable the child to grow into a balanced human being. The mother will show them that they are inherently valuable, and the father will show them that while they are valuable, that doesn’t mean they don’t have to work for things.


The mother will assist the child to cultivate self-worth and the dad will assist the child to cultivate self-esteem, and these two components are also connected.

If a child was to grow up with only one of those influences, it may set them up to experience problems as an adult. This is what happens when a child only has one parent around, but it may also occur when there aren’t two.

A Closer Look

The child might have only one parent about and this parent could always tell them how wonderful they are, or else they could abuse/or neglect them.

Then again, a child could have two parents still end up developing problems. 1 parent could be emotionally absent and another could see them as an extension of these.

A Grey Area

The love that they want will not be provided, which might set them up to behave as though they are a machine. What this shows is that It’s not enough just to have two parents; they both need to be healthy Folks

This is why it isn’t necessarily going to be better for a child to have two parents than it will be for them to have one. Having one good parent and a grandparent, for example, will be better than having two poor parents and nobody else available.


If someone can see their side of the nature is out of equilibrium, and they want to change their life, it’ll be essential for them to reach out for support. This is something can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

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